I was hoping for a "You're not a bad mom Laura, I promise" or maybe "I'm sure she's just going through a phase." Cynthia was a teacher after all so I run any school related things by her for teacherly advice. Cynthia replied by sending me one suggested remedy to the problem...
I am very sorry for the behavior of my daughter, and it will stop immediately. We will be taking care of this "Polynesian style". Please ignore any bruises and bloodiness that you see on our daughter over the next few weeks. This should surely cure her behavior. Thank you for making us aware of this situation.
Not quite the answer I was looking for but it did make me laugh. So Friday after school, the other moms and I met with the teacher to discuss what we can do to help our daughters get along better. I thought that I would have until when my kids get into junior high to get ready for all of the catty games and craziness that girls are known for (I was a girl once--I know how mean girls can be.) Well, the meeting went well and Tehani and I have talked a lot about this since then. She even came and showed me an apology note she made today. I guess it's actually a little more like a ransom note since the words are all spelled out with cut out letters...
i'M SoRrY tHaT i saiD
mEaN StUfF tO yOu
I guess its a start. Wish me luck (I think I'm going to need it!)